The Rauscher Life

I am a widow, I was married for almost 15 years to my husband. Cancer showed up and in a few short months he was gone. My marriage ended in June of 2021 because my husband died, we completed our marriage vows…until death do us part.

Is marriage worth it? Is it worth waiting for a Godly spouse. Is all this frustration and heartache doing anything at all?

Yes! Absolutely. Marriage ranks high in the human experience and I recommend it with enthusiasm! You won’t have many things in life that even touch your joy, delight, and blessing in marriage. But in the same breath, marriage will not ultimately fulfill you. Marriage will hurt you, marriage will frustrate you, you will have moments when you may still feel lonely even when you are married to a wonderful spouse. You will still struggle with your sin (I hope you struggle less). In fact your life will be much harder in many ways. Your responsibilities will increase, your own personal happiness will rank lower on the line of priorities (much lower). Your life will be a life of joyful service to another (and children too, if you are blessed to have them). Your preferences and desires will not be as important. You may let go of dreams you wanted to accomplish. That book may not get written. You might not travel to those amazing places. You may have a tighter budget and less financial freedoms. You may not be able to participate in your beloved hobby or activities like before.

Is is worth it? YES! It is absolutely worth it all.

Marriage is created by God and is for God. A godly marriage is to magnify the Glory of God.

If you’re single and your heart hurts because you want a spouse, that’s alright. It is good to desire marriage (I desire it again).

Rest in the sovereignty of the loving Lord God that what you have in Him is far greater than a marriage to a person. If you have Christ, you have the greatest fulfillment, the greatest peace, the greatest joy. You have salvation through Christ, the greatest gift bestowed to humans.

You may gain a spouse. You may bury a spouse as I have, likely you will if you follow your marriage vows to death.

You will never lose Christ as your Savior! He will give you all you need.